Posted By: tcarter on Aug 30, 2013 in Couples, Love, Marriage, Marriages, Uncategorized


I would have to say that this is probably my favorite word and I like to repeat it over and over!

The word radiant means reflecting beams of light, glowing, bright, shining, marked by or expressive of love. Isn’t that great?! I love this! Men, this is a tall order for you but it comes from the word of God

In Ephesians 5:25-27 it says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” I bet you ladies are saying “right on”, and you men are saying “huh, I got to do what?”. Well let’s just put it simply that these verses represent courtship in your marriage. You never stop courting each other, no matter how long you’ve been married.


The husband is to love and give himself up for her. In other words, if you want your wife to be supportive, respectful, honoring, and beautiful, you have to go all out in the way that you treat her. That’s what will make her radiant.

We as women want to be courted, and cherished and to know that our husbands feel like we are their treasure. We want to shine bright, and glow. Our husbands are the ones we love the most and who we want to be with the most, that’s our desire and intention from the time we spoke our vows on our wedding day.

So many times in many relationships the courting stops! Life gets busy with all kinds of stuff, and the stress comes and your relationship gets blindsided, especially for the wives. All of a sudden then, there are spots, wrinkles, and blemishes. Remember reading the verses above about being presented “without” spot or wrinkle or blemish?

Let me explain. First, this is in no way removing responsibility from wives for their part in the relationship, which will be covered in another chapter, so bear with me. Scripture tells us (also in Ephesians 5) that the husband is the authority over the wife, and of course God is the ultimate authority over the husband. Wives are to submit, (as unto the Lord), to their husbands. So in other words, husbands are to take care of their wives the way Jesus does the church and wives are to honor and respect their husbands as they would the Lord. The husband has a huge responsibility for his wife. He is responsible to God for her well-being. His love for his wife is to be mirrored of Jesus’ love for the church. This kind of love is intentional, focused, and on purpose, no matter what!

Husbands, realize that you of all people in your wife’s life are the one who can wound her the most. That’s where those spots, blemishes, and wrinkles (not from aging), derive from. Why? Because she loves you so deeply and the most! She craves your love and needs you!

You see, Jesus loves the church so much that he makes sure that the way he treats it causes it to be radiant, to glow, to shine, to be a beam of light, that it is marked by love so it is in turn expressive of love and he cleanses it with the word. That’s how he presents the church without spot, or wrinkle or blemish before God. Wow! That’s an incredible demonstration of intentional, and purposeful love. The Bible correlates this, to that of how husbands are to be to their wives.
This is the ultimate love your wife desires, she wants to be radiant. I know that as a husband your thinking that Jesus is the only one who is perfect and you can’t match up to that so let me say that if you are even just trying everyday, no matter what comes in life, to mirror this kind of love to your wife, she will know it and you will have the life you have always dreamed of because she will meet your needs and be beautifully radiant!

Husbands, as men of God, you can’t go wrong as long as you are taking your direction from the word of God as your guide to loving your wife, you won’t regret it!

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