Choices & Consequences | Christian Marriages Springfield MO
We are all very aware that we have choices everyday and also consequences of those choices. Most times, we plan ahead and think we know what the consequences will be relating to those choices we make our day to day life. But we don’t plan or think about them when it relates to our spouse, our relationship at home, in most cases. Later, when things seem to be out of whack or your spouse is distant or flips out on you, ignores you, or they seem like they just don’t care anymore; it’s usually not related to something that just happened, it’s a consequence of behavior you chose to impart on him/her at another time that you thought you got away with…..because he/she loves you.
In short, as married people, we manipulate, take advantage of, and abuse the affections and love in our relationship. Not intentionally for the most part but we always have an excuse for the heartless words we use, the ugly tone of voice, the foul mood, the offensive body language we display, and the list goes on……None of those just mentioned have anything to do with love or what God’s word says about how we are to treat our spouses….And then we wonder later, what happened? Why is our spouse in different all of a sudden? It’s consequences of choices you made earlier.
Luke 6:31 (msg) “Here is a simple rule of thumb for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them.”
Luke 6:35-37 (msg) “Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults–unless, of course, you want the same treatment. Don’t condemn those who are down; that hardness can boomerang. Be easy on people; you’ll find life a lot easier. Give away your life, you’ll find life given back, but not merely given back–given back with bonus and blessing. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity.”
Yes, we all make mistakes, it’s our human nature but it’s no excuse or reason to ignore God’s word and the way we are to treat those we are “supposed” to love. The Word has made a way for our lives to be happy and full of joy and experience peaceful living. It’s all right there in His Word. It’s so simple, so why do WE make it so hard? We live the consequences of our own choices, which is most times hard to handle. That isn’t God’s plan for us. John 10:10 (msg) says it, “I came so they can have real and eternal life, MORE and BETTER life than they ever dreamed of.” I don’t know what kind of life you dream of having, but the life I dream of is pretty great!
So…………….don’t live one more day regretting the consequences of your ridiculous, unkind, heartless choices made toward your spouse and/or children! Get so wrapped up in the Word and how HE wants your heart to be that it’s all you think about and strive for!!!! Talk about a GREAT choice with a FANTASTIC consequence!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do it!!!!!!!!!
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